I am a big believer in talking to yourself like a weirdo. What you say to yourself has a huge impact on how you go about the world, and if you can think and say good stuff, it usually clicks in with your brain and becomes a belief, new habit or just true. Which is pretty cool! Example, if you go around saying “I love running” after a while, you’ll love running. Go try it and let me know how it goes.
I also get a giggle when people re-iterate phrases I blurt out and they tell me that it really helps them and I think, “I said that? That’s good!” Here are a few of my favorites that hopefully will help you when you are in need of a little mental buttslap.
1. You’ll be fine. Yes, yes you will. You can do these things and you will be fine.
2. What’s the worse that can happen? I have to constantly tell myself this when I am scared and taking a big leap of creativity, endurance or having to have a hard conversation. I’ll hear that itty bitty shitty committee of fear raise up in my head and I’ll say aloud, “What is the worse that can happen?” And that usually does the trick. Unless it’s death or harm to my family, I do it.
3. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. Let’s face it, sometimes it’s not all rainbows and unicorns and stuff sucks. But that’s when I tell myself that this discomfort will lead to good things, it makes it easier, and that’s where there is growth. I also know it won’t last forever.
4. I am grateful. This is a gamechanger for me, and it usually follows #3. I am so lucky to do what I do, with the people I admire, and with this strong body. I am so so grateful for that.
5. Just show up or Just start. Confession. I have a pet peeve: People who say the will do something, and then they don’t show up. It’s confusing, rude and my little 8th-grade heart gets hurt cause no one showed up to my slumber party. But that’s a whole other issue. Just show up people. Just show up and start and it will happen.